I’ve been discussing AI chatbots as sexual/romantic relationships with students and experts lately. I have to say that while I knew it was happening, I’m still finding myself surprised and intrigued as well as deeply disturbed as I dive into the topic. On the one hand, AI chatbots can be seen as another form of porn; a created piece of art that engages our senses and is designed to stimulate.

Be mAI Valentine? What Sexuality Professionals Need to Know About AI Relationships

I think it wild and wonderful that so many of the sacred sexuality retreats that I have attended include poetry. Poetry appears in talent shows, in offerings by participants, in readings by leaders. It shows up in handouts and materials, in suggested reading, and in exercises created for the events. I delight in it, but it does not surprise me in the least. If love is the erotic heart, and

Poetry: The Erotic Mind

I've had my moments of doubt when dealing with AI. While it may seem that every platform we work with is using (and pushing) the use of it, we should be thinking about how we as a field of practitioners of educators and clinicians can get out a unified message. We are not replaceable by AI. Why? Let's look at some reasons. First off and most obviously, AI relies on

The Human Touch: Why AI Can’t Replace You

A heads-up to you: this post is a specific call to action. It is an action we can all take now, and may not be able to in the future. As most of you know, I am not an alarmist. But I feel I need to call attention to some issues and make you aware that there are low-key but vital actions you can take now. Please do. I taught

My Weekend SAR Wake Up Call–and Yours: Save Your Stuff

Fall is traditionally a time of harvest, but we also find ourselves slowing down when the sun goes down earlier. I thought I would honor the fading of the light with some cool facts about sleep and sex. A surprising amount of research has been undertaken that addresses the relationship between sex and sleep. Some researchers make important distinctions for orgasms in this process. Sleep can regulate and increase hormone

Does Sleep Help Sex, or Sex Help Sleep? Turns Out It’s Both

I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Atlas Obscura, when I came across fascinating research that gave me some great insight into the creep factor. Why do we find some people creepy? Why are men and people perceived to be men seen as creepier than women? What is it that makes our skin crawl? The podcast, in case you are interested, was about the Isla de los Muñecas,

Understanding the Creep Factor